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Your First Grandchild
How to Help
Without Becoming a Hindrance By Katherine Bontrager
Without Becoming a Hindrance
It's said that being a grandparent is the best job in the world. And while most seasoned grandparents will readily agree with this statement, the prospect of becoming a grandma or grandpa can be daunting for first-timers.
Much has changed since you were a parent: New technology and evolutions in medicine have forever altered the landscape of parenting. In addition to these countless changes, how do you walk the fine line of being supportive without overstepping your bounds? Such thoughts can overwhelm grandparents-to-be.
Thankfully, there are thoroughly tested pieces of advice and an assortment of classes to help ease the transition into the world's best job.
"Grandparenting affords you certain privileges, but with them come some cautions," Newman says. "Offer to help, but don't be upset if your offers are refused. Many new parents prefer to adjust and find their own way."
Newman gently reminds new grandmas and grandpas that yes, it's your grandchild, but you are not the parent. She says to never imply or tell your child that he or she is doing something incorrectly with the baby. After all, much has changed since your time in the hot seat of parenting.
One big point of contention is the unexpected visits that excited grandparents may force upon the new family. "Visit only when invited," Newman says. "Don't pop in unexpectedly and don't stop by every day unless you are requested to do so."
Finally, she suggests giving things a little bit of time. This major life change will take some getting used to for all involved, including grandparents.
"Don't expect everything to fall into place immediately; everyone, including you, needs time to adjust to his or her new role," Newman says.
