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My Grandma Has Alzheimer's

By Marie-Helen Goyetche

"Ask your child, 'How did you feel when you lost your teddy bear?'" says Dobbs. "'You were sad and confused. Grandma is also sad and confused. Let's help her and be there for her when she forgets things.'" This will show your child to be tolerant and respectful toward people who are ill. Compassion isn't a feeling you're born with; you must develop it. This is a good opportunity for your little one to experience a little compassion and develop empathy.

"Michael tells me that great-grandma forgets that she's already given him a bowl of ice cream, and gets him another one," says Lynn. "He says he has to eat it so he doesn't hurt her feelings."

"If your child has a close relationship with the grandparent and the condition of the elderly family member hasn't moved into a stage that is violent, it's important to include your children in your family activities and visits," says Dobbs.

Set the visits at regular intervals when going with the children. Don't overload your child or the grandparent. For the health of the family, it's important for both to be involved together right from day one. Limit your time for each visit; grandparents get tired much quicker than preschoolers.

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