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Talk Your Way Into the New Year
The 10 Best Things to Say to Your Partner
By Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller
Goal setting, reflection and new beginnings are typical occurrences as one year ends and another begins. Resolutions, self-promises and high resolve are the order of the day as people strive to improve important areas of their lives.
A time associated with new beginnings, New Year's Eve might just be the perfect time for you and your partner to examine your communication style. Look over the following list of the 10 best things you can say to your partner. Decide which ones you will use and when. Add them to your list of resolutions, and commit to making this your best year ever as a couple.
"If I were picking again today, I'd still choose you," meets the needs of both parties. It helps the receiver feel valued and cherished. Simultaneously, it reminds the sender that indeed every day is a choice and that this day she still chooses the partner she picked many days, many months or many years ago.
Use this sentence only if you know it to be true. It is not to be used for manipulation, to get sex, to make up or to make yourself look good. If you don't mean it, don't say it.
If you can't say this phrase and mean it, ask yourself these questions: Am I sure that I'm where I want to be? How come I'm still in this relationship? What do I have to do, what changes need to be made, what thoughts, attitudes and feelings need to change in order for me to be able to use this sentence and mean it?