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Emotions in Motion
The Emotional Side of Incontinence
By Katherine Bontrager
Over the years, Lavender has talked with dozens of women and doctors about incontinence and now encourages women experiencing the same difficulties through her organization: the Women's Health Foundation. The foundation offers a program that helps women learn how to exercise, while educating them about bladder and pelvic health.
Besides educating yourself about the medical aspects of the condition, it's also important to realize that there are countless others who are sharing the same experiences, Dr. Bartell says.
Sufferers also may feel shame and be unwilling to share their feelings with other people, even a spouse. "It is important to share your feelings with a partner and also ask for support," Dr. Bartell says. "Keeping this a secret will only cause more of an emotional burden. If necessary, it can be very helpful to speak with a counselor who can help you understand your feelings and offer support in coping with the changes you are experiencing in your life."
Your doctor is also a great person with whom to discuss incontinence and express your feelings. Your physician can help encourage you by talking about treatment options, as well as offering ways to manage the condition.
"Once you take it from the subconscious to the conscious, you can start to decide what to do," Gartley says. "As you start to decide how to live your life, you will become a problem solver and that diffuses the emotional impact of incontinence."