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Tying a New Knot

How Grandparent Remarriage Affects You and Your Family

By Becky Lane

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But working through these transitions shouldn't deter grandparents from living their newly married lives the way they want to. "Grandparents need to stand up for themselves to move beyond personal doubts and fears," Mandel says. "They do not live for their children and grandchildren because they have their own identities and dreams ... However, with kindness, humor and positive interpretation of negatives, acceptance and even love for the new member of the family can be generated."

Mace and Green both agree, saying that despite any issues their families have encountered with grandparent remarriage, the happiness of the grandparent is what's most important.

Tips for Making the Transition

Relationship expert April Masini offers the following tips for adjusting to a new grandma or grandpa:

  • Children will follow their parents' lead when it comes to adjusting to a new grandparent. Therefore, it is important not to bad mouth the new grandma or grandpa in front of the children. It will backfire on you and will harm the grandchildren.
  • Continue to keep in touch with both grandparents if they are divorced. If one of them passed away, continue to honor the deceased grandparent by cemetery visits or personal family traditions.
  • Keep photos of ALL grandparents (new and old) around the house. Grandpa or Grandma who remarries after a death should keep photos of the former spouse with the children and grandchildren around the house, in addition to new photos with the current spouse.

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