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Expert Q&A
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| By Paul Coleman Psychologist Family Therapist | ||
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What is the best way to discuss incontinence with one's husband?
It's best to be very matter-of-fact. For most people, urinary incontinence (UI) is more annoying than restrictive. Men who have had a radical prostatectomy may be uneasy discussing UI. I think their partners should best discuss it from a practical perspective – that is, what to do about it – and limit any conversations that begin "How do you feel..." Unless the man is comfortable discussing his feelings, he will avoid such discussions and may act aloof or angry when "feelings" are mentioned. Ideally, men would talk about their feelings – it would likely help them – but it is a mistake to push them to talk. They will resent it."
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